Recently someone asked me for my opinion on same sex marriage. They told me they realized the Old Testament speaks against things like this (and parts of the New Testament) but found no indication where Jesus speaks against it. I was grateful this person showed concern about this topic and that they trusted my opinion. So, I thought I would share this with you. Thanks for reading it all the way through. Here goes……..
OK, let me start by saying a person can’t just totally dump the Old Testament and the principles that were established there. Jesus said…..
“Do not think that I have come to do away with or undo the Law or the Prophets; I have come not to do away with or undo but to complete and fulfill them. For truly I tell you, until the sky and earth pass away and perish, not one smallest letter nor one little hook [identifying certain Hebrew letters] will pass from the Law until all things [it foreshadows] are accomplished.” (Matthew 5:17 – 5:18 AMP)
I know we are not under the “law” of the Old Testament, but we must realize that the New Testament completes, with the solution of Jesus, God’s original plan for man. In Genesis God created a male and a female (Adam and Eve) and He said it was “very good.” He wanted them to pro-create because He wanted family, people He could bless and enjoy. This being the main theme, I am sure you can see that a same-sex marriage would never be able to fulfill this. God would certainly not have been able to call a male and male relationship, or a female and female relationship couple “very good” if they could not satisfy His desire for family.
Nevertheless, Jesus did mention His agreement with His Father’s idea in the New Testament. Jesus was talking to the Pharisees when He said….
“But from the beginning of creation God made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave [behind] his father and his mother and be joined to his wife and cleave closely to her permanently, And the two shall become one flesh, so that they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has united (joined together), let not man separate or divide.” (Mark 10:6 – 10:9 AMP)
Though Jesus was addressing a question about divorce He still reiterates the original plan of God. When this passage says, “For this reason a man shall leave [behind] his father and his mother and be joined to his wife and cleave closely to her permanently, And the two shall become one flesh, so that they are no longer two, but one flesh” we must define the “For this reason….” We see the reason in verse 6, “But from the beginning of creation God made them male and female.” It’s very obvious what God’s original plan is. It’s for a man and a woman to be joined together. God will never go against His own word. He also does not change what He has established to please society. He desires for us to follow His ways, not the other way around.
That being said, many Christians today do not know how to separate a person from their sin. Look, I don’t agree with homosexuality or same-sex marriage….but I also don’t agree with fornication, adultery, lust, lying, stealing, dishonoring authority, and a bunch of other things. I have Biblical reasons for all of these things. However, I also have Biblical reasons that teach me to LOVE PEOPLE…..regardless of any sin they may or may not be guilty of. It’s not my job to judge….and therefore I don’t. I do stand up for what I believe, but I make it a point to love and respect the person….that does not mean I agree or approve of things that go against those beliefs. It just means I love them first and only share my views when asked or when they show a desire for more.
We are all works in progress. I want to be like Jesus. He was (and is) a man who loved sinners but loved them enough to show them His Father’s ways. I desire to shine His light to such a degree that anyone and everyone may find their way out of darkness whenever they desire. I agree with the Bible when it says, “Perfect love never fails.” Actually, the Message Bible says it best, “If anyone boasts, “I love God,” and goes right on hating his brother or sister, thinking nothing of it, he is a liar. If he won’t love the person he can see, how can he love the God he can’t see? The command we have from Christ is blunt: Loving God includes loving people. You’ve got to love both… (1 John 4:20-21 – MSG)
I will continue to love people with His love and leave the “judging” and “refining” up to Jesus.
Feel free to share this with others as long as your motive is right. Use it to help others, not to debate them.
Have a blessed day!
Pastor Kevin Kinchen